MyMind Counselling Services

Depression, the 'common cold' of Western mental illness, is also known as melancholia and unipolar affective (mood) disorder. It includes a variety of flat emotional conditions, but is usually characterised by profound and terrible feelings of powerlessness, emptiness, deadness, fear, lethargy, greyness - a carelessness about everything - an absence of en theos for life. At any given time, about one in five people is mildly to severely depressed in our society. Left to become more severe, such emotional pain is engendered that suicide may be seen as the only way to 'cope' with its unceasing pain. Everything is an effort; one delays going to bed, then awakens early, or hides in sleep, and there is a loss of interest or energy for anyone or anything. The weather is permanently bleak, and one runs on will-power, if at all. While medication will often 'lubricate' the brain, biochemistry should not be considered as the most likely cause. - David Riddell

When looking at issues of the mind it is important to check intensity/distress levels.
Is what you are experiencing mildly troublesome or totally debilitating? This is particularly true for depression.
These songs reflect some of the sad, melancholy feelings all people experience in their lives.
Everybody Hurts normalises hurt as a common human experience and advises to 'hold on' .
My Immortal describes how dependent (and co-dependent) the lost relationship was,
(not healthy) and it seems she is still stuck in her dependency - she needs counselling help.
Fix You - It seems there is something innate in all of us that wants to try and fix things for ourselves
and others especially when there is indescribable hurt and distress. This 'fix' or 'rescue' option
has it's place but notice the writer first says, 'Lights will guide you home and ignite your bones'
Jesus is referred to as 'The Light of the World' in the Bible and He along with counselling insights
could be the 'lights' offered in the song. It is my experience that God is less likely to 'fix' us and
is more likely to empower us to be still OK despite the brokenness in and around us.
This is how counselling works as well, no easy fixes, just someone to help find a way and journey with us.
Also someone to help find true insights to accommodate the good, bad and the ugly of life.
Faith in God, the source of abundant light and love, insight into all truth and friends around us
saying...' and I will try to fix you', all combine to encourage those experiencing depression there is a way through.
Flying Without Wings focuses on one important element that I believe is tucked away in every human being,
'that something' that brings Life and Love and Hope and a reason to fly above all of life's adversities and live. An empowering
question for everyone might be, "How passionate are you about finding 'that something' that will enable you to truly live?"
It is the passion of my life to find it , the fight of my life to stay in it and the joy of my life to live from it.

Song music and lyrics are mostly written from the heart and are destined for the heart.
They can be a great way of showing empathy - "Ah, at least someone understands
my heartache and validates what's happening in me."
Listening, singing, writing and composing are great ways to process life’s stuff.
These activities help us also to externalise what going on in the subconscious (our hearts) and so bring to our conscious
mind our thoughts and feelings. Once there they can be processed, our head and heart can reconcile them,
check if they are true or still relevant, find meaning or purpose or whatever
such that they no longer disturb or distress us. Good counselling ensures this occurs.

Unipolar Depression: 6 Likely causes of endogenous depression, 5 of which are reactive. - David Riddell
1. Hopelessness / Frustration / Powerlessness. Obstruction. One gets 'stuck'.
2. Meaninglessness - Loss of all motivation and despair. (Sometimes called the existential dilemma)
3. Deprivation - The Orphan's Sadness / Echoes of Abandonment / Low ego-strength.
4. Exhaustion - Burnout I Weary shut-down.
5. Anger internalised - Bitter sulking, at self or others.
6. Biochemical - Causeless doom (angst) I utter weariness.
How To Help Yourself If You Are Depressed
Depressive disorders make one feel exhausted, worthless, helpless, and hopeless. Such negative thoughts and feelings make some people feel like giving up. It is important to realize that these negative views are part of the depression and typically do not accurately reflect the actual circumstances. Negative thinking fades as treatment begins to take effect. In the meantime:
  • Set realistic goals in light of the depression and assume a reasonable amount of responsibility.
  • Break large tasks into small ones, set some priorities, and do what you can as you can.
  • Try to be with other people and to confide in someone; it is usually better than being alone and secretive.
  • Participate in activities that may make you feel better.
  • Mild exercise, going to a movie, going to a game like netball or rugby, or participating in religious, social, or other activities may help.
  • Expect your mood to improve gradually, not immediately. Feeling better takes time.
  • It is advisable to postpone important decisions until the depression has lifted. Before deciding to make a significant transition-change jobs, get married or divorced-discuss it with others who know you well and have a more objective view of your situation.
  • People rarely "snap out of" a depression. But they can feel a little better day-by-day.
  • Remember, positive thinking will replace the negative thinking that is part of the depression and will disappear as your depression responds to treatment.
  • Let your family and friends help you.